Great points from this important video:


1. there is a brain addiction to them
2. healing is about you, not about imagining what the narcissist is  doing or if they love you

7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

Here is your no contact order form, free:

a. they use their ego: I'm the one who decided to end it, or left. It wasn't you implementing a no contact plan

You might be pulled back in, hooked again

b. they'll contact you about random things: they need their minions, and call you with some odd or stupid question or issue to accomplish the info finding mission

This will get your head spinning, circular conversations,

Must block ALL contact.  Must stop thinking about them.

c. they may appear accountable, apologetic, or make promises: enough of this to get you back under control. It sounds believable, and they may even make token effort to go to a therapist or couples counseling. They want you to capitulate, return, the, ......back to HELL.

for the therapy or pressuring them to be vulnerable which they detest, they'll punish you without end for that

Hell: when returning, the emotional and physical violence ALWAYS increases over time.

Things get worse, not better.

Connect to your own healing: you source your love, survival, serenity, etc.

Don't connect with damaged people. Those who support

d. they'll use sympathy or guilt, your nature, to hook you back.

I'm sick.
I'm not coping without you.
My .s.s.s died
I lost my job

We return, even after having been treated abysmally. We think they'll change, but we have a life time of doing this: is has been occurring since childhood.

Narcissistic Supply: you and others. If you stay away, they'll find another.

Don't fall for it. Heal that part that is triggered, hooked.

e. they'll trigger attention from you by hurting your friends, smearing, attack, punish you, sue you, kill your dog, etc. etc.

Attacking your friends: abuse by proxy.

They still want to hurt you so much that you return.

You're the victim, target, and their dumpster for their issues.

f.  they may eventually move on and replace you with a new supply of victims, objects, items to use: other persons like you.....but then use it against you........

This may take you back into the cycle:

you're replaced
you wonder if the person is better like they say, and you're still broken
and you go crazy again.
And, they know your fears, and know how to dose this abuse to you about their new "love"


You may want to contact the new person and warn them. Don't: heal yourself.

7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact