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Friday, October 19, 2018

Let the Sun Shine In: Soleil Soleil

Is there hope?

Try this out.

French
Spanish
English versions of Soleil Soleil:









soley soley 1972 Let the Sun Shine In: Soleil Soleil


































Want to change your mind? Here are some ways that we know work, from our blog on Aromatherapy and Jewelry:


What is the least you need to know about your own Aromatherapy?

Well, being retired as a clinical counselor, there was much contact with the use of essential oils as a mood changer of mood and thinking.  We know that the nerves in the nose circumvent message controls in the brain: smells get to use the super highway into your brain and not be filtered as other body or sensory messages. This occurred through the evolution of the body: smell is another form of "seeing" like the eyes. But, since smells are less vivid and dramatic than sight and sound, all animals that rely on smell needed this circumventing of the brains "filter mechanisms".

The metaphor is: this is an urgent message and it's really subtle, so let's let this message in fast and without any restrictions!

Smell, or the olfactory nerves of our nose, are not the human's primary senses. Because of that, we tend to discount the importance of smell. But, you body was created to take this subtle message of smelling anything or nothing, and fast track it to the brain. There, the brain instantly connects that smelling to memories, thoughts, actions, and even unconscious actions:

1. smell is the one sense that can trigger floods of memories

2. smell can shift the actions in the brain: if one is stressed, a smell can trigger a shift from one portion of the brain being active to another being active. For instance, is you were stressed and focused on bad traffic, an aroma can shift thinking: your brain shifts functions from one area to another. The obsession about the traffic is stopped in it's portion of the brain, and in brain scans we see another area become active. What is that area that gets activated? It could be any other portion of the brain that might including remembering a love or preparing a good meal. But, in general, it's a major shifter: it stopped one small portion of the brain from controlling your thoughts, moods, and actions, and allows the ENTIRE brain to function. So, if we had a metaphor of say the 7 Dwarfs being these parts of our brain, Grumpy had been controlling you. But, now with the aroma shifting this, Grumpy is not exclusively in control now. The other 6 wake up and go into action, for whatever that means for each person as an individual.



 So, if we had a metaphor of say the 7 Dwarfs being these parts of our brain, Grumpy had been controlling you. But, now with the aroma shifting this, Grumpy is not exclusively in control now. The other 6 wake up and go into action, for whatever that means for each person as an individual.



These things, that we joke about or discount, as with our nose and smell can change brain function, and this is not speculation, myth, hopefulness: this is science and factual medicine. These are the things that are known to be both therapeutic and factual, though discounted by society and generally the medical field professionals (because their profession is driven by prescriptions and surgeries that they are comfortable with):

a. aroma therapy is smell: the only sense in the body that goes directly into the brain

b. music of most forms

c. music and hypnotic states: sound and listening therapies

used in the treatment of anxiety and ADD called neuralfeedback, a scientific advance on the mind and biofeedback). Let's call these hypnotic states something less than fully conscious, and includes: meditation, hypnosis, yoga, reading, binaural beat audio and light therapy, trance music such as that of the Sufi Dancers and trance music (repetitive music), classical music ((the Mozart Effect))

Why are these areas discounted or even joked about in our society? As Westerners, our lives are based on trying to find that which is tangible. But really, underneath it all, these things are called "transpersonal" and something we fear. We fear being out of control, and these things, like sitting an massaging your dying older dog daily, is not very "Western". But, it is soulful, healing, and real.  Don't accept the subtle discounting others use for these methods, because it creates a culture then that discounts and ultimately robs all of their healing!


When you hear: "Oh, June or our trans-son Jeff is sorting out their "girly" aroma therapy oils today, so let's the boys get out and get some brewskis like real men do. I may buy here some, but that's to placate her. And, those darn aromas aren't something tangible and useful like my collection of Cabela's Fishing Flies".

If you buy into that, let the comment go without stopping it, or just passively accept it, you've then tolerated the culture of Male Entitlement and Superiority, and allowed a Gaslight event to occur.....even if it's that subtle!!!!

ancient egypt: essential oils pressed aromatherapy


d. creative action: creating something, writing, gardening therapy, random art and drawing, hand crafts

e. contact therapies with animals: dogs, puppies, horse equine therapy.....many animals really. Touch may be included in this, such as human touch therapies, but these have really never been defined. Still, it's say that a moment of genuine touch of unclouded intimacy can last a year

3. Smell is a different in most non-human animals, and on par with sight our sound for importance. But, for many animals, smell is King:

*dogs are known for being able so smell a single particle of smell, and blood hounds can track that for dozens of miles

*cats and other animals communicate with smell, and the subtle aroma of pheromones is as important as sight. This is also present in humans, but mostly misunderstood: both kittens and human babies put out different bonding hormones in their skin and breath that links them to their parent. The Pheromone says about the baby: you smell like a cinnamon roll, I like that, you're mine".   I use Feliway Cat Pheromone to lessen the behavior of a biting feral cat: and it's ongoing use daily through a burner is the only reason Frankenstein and I are still together!!!

*snakes smell is more powerful than sight: but their nose, olfactory sensors are in their flashing tongue



Just a bit of info today on Essential Oils for Aromatherapy


1. Essential Oils have been with us for thousands of years. They are pressed in presses just as our eating oils are.

2 ancient egypt: essential oils pressed aromatherapy


2.  They have been some of the most valuable treasures humans have known, and merchants have travelled the world for these, including Frankincense and Myrrh.  While some of these were bought as resins, it's the oil inside that was used to make the aromas and perfumes of old.

3.  Think a bit differently about Aroma Therapy is this is new to you. The oils are not the scents of your aroma burner or bathroom spray: smelling like an apple pie or lavender blast garden might be good for your living room. But, that goal is a pleasant "cover up". Aroma therapy seeks to find those
oils that humans have been accustomed to for thousands of years and are natural and not fake or chemical. So, if you seen an aroma in the Glade section of the store, or a pile of little wax pills to burn in your wax burning candle: those are good for that, but are not the smells you want on your Aromatherapy Beads

4. Since these oils are natural they have been pressed only from plant materials:
seeds
petals
plant stems
actual plant wood
plant resins and pitch

4. Since these oils are natural they have been pressed only from plant materials:  seeds  petals  plant stems  actual plant wood   plant resins and pitch


This makes most time limited for viability or "shelf-life". That means, after 18 months they'll age just like that olive oil or canola oil in your cupboard. The sign of this "rancid" of all natural oils is to begin to smell like WOOD. So, if there is a smell of wood or lumber to that rose petal oil you bought, it's time to toss it. Put on your aroma oil bottles the date you purchased, then figure it was likely 6 months old when you bought it (if purchased from a reputable business, otherwise, Ebay and Amazon is often a really bad clearing house for old essential oil stocks: these can arrive smelling like wood or do so in a couple of months).   There are just a few exceptions to this: there are actual wood essential oil extracts. To tell if those are still fresh and usable, I like this little test:



For Wood Essential Oils: does it smell genuine, true to that wood, PLEASANT, or does it make my nose crinkle up in dislike?  That works for pine wood, tropical woods, etc. I recently had a Cinnamon bark essential oil (cinnamon oils can come from leaves, bark, or wood and have different original aromas), and used it in a cake. The cake smelled like a lumber yard that woody smell. I checked the bottle, and sure enough, that bottle I got from a major organic store recently had likely sat on that shelf for a year or two. It was beyond date and usefulness, and I poured it out in the garden. That was $15.


5. the higher the quality the perfume you have, the more it has original and blended essential oils. Cheap perfume has some fake aromas developed in the 1930's by Channel. These smell good, but those with real essential oils simply cost more: with a retail price of $50 or up. That is because many essential oils are costly to produce: a ton of French Rose Petals may make an ounce of essential oil. Some essential oils cost great prices. In bottles, most sold as PURE Pharmaceutical Grade Essential Oils simply are not: there is a filler of mineral oil or vegetable oil, often with fake aromas.

You can use your own perfumes on your Essential Oil Aromatherapy Beads:
1. that nice smell will stay on those many days, so when you shower you won't lose your investment in Estee or Lancome's! You'll smell your perfume as will others.
2. Quality perfumes do last longer then the pure oils: if you invest in a perfume the life of it is a few years as the "pros" know how to do that
3. Most perfumes are clear and less oil feeling: using perfume on the aroma bead is good protection of costly clothes.

6. You can buy essential oils, and as we see from the above points, it's hard to get the real thing that is fresh. But the oils you'll use for Aromatherapy Beads needs to be blended because each on it's own is a both sharp and hollow note or smell. It's when blended that it becomes both rich and pleasant. And, in having several related oils together, the therapy role is accomplished because you have not one tool in your tool box, but several. It's a bit like this:

tasted alone:
butter
cocoa powder
baking soda
flour
sugar
eggs
oil

Tasted alone, these are "hollow". But blended and cooked they make a brownie! Yum because that smells and tastes good.

Essential oils are similar.




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tasted alone:  butter  cocoa powder  baking soda  flour  sugar  eggs  oil    Tasted alone, these are "hollow". But blended and cooked they make a brownie! Yum because that smells and tastes good.     Essential oils are similar.




And, note our recipe has noxious baking soda. Yech, you don't want to taste or eat that alone. In the aromatherapy field, there are essential oils that can be really obnoxious on their own. Vetiver is one of those oils that alone is nasty, but seems to make a blend rounded.

7. We can save you time and buying books on or making errors with Essential Oil Blends. You won't have to toss ours out like your blend trials....

We have two blends now, and will to offer more based on World Essential oils:

1. Tamarack Spring Forest: a blend of pine needles and forest floral.  Pleasing, awakening, calming

2. Owyhee Dessert: a blend of high dessert oriented aromas, including desert and garden herbs scents. Remember who you are, return to yourself.

3.  Citrus Orient, including the waking up of citrus and the focus of spices that will not smell like foods are drinks, but more "places".

All are blended to balance the aromas, as some are very overpowering. These are all "pleasant" tested!


I've used these in clinical therapy practice for 30 years, and now as a retired therapist I write about this. Please send us any questions on topics of this article, as I respond from my background with a PhD from accredited university in Cultural and Transpersonal Therapies (transpersonal being those a, b, c, d, and e subjects above and more, and their use as treatment for stress, trauma, ADD, and all forms of POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDERS.

Best to you using your full brain, mind, and soul!!

Charles K. Bunch, PHD.

author of 50 books on mental health, PTSD, abuse recovery, and more.





















Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Points of Light: Cultures and History

Cultures and history can be forgotten, or they can be part of our mental Points of Light.

Here are two examples:

1.  We bring back our own culture and the cultures of others:

Edward Curtis: Was this the most ambitious photo project ever?
Edward S Curtis spent years living with Native American tribes to chronicle their lives, in what became a definitive work of vast proportions.

After taking more than 40,000 pictures over 30 years, he published the last of 20 volumes in 1930.

https://www.bbc.com/news/video_and_audio/headlines/45843072/edward-curtis-was-this-the-most-ambitious-photo-project-ever

1.  We bring back our own culture and the cultures of others:    Edward Curtis: Was this the most ambitious photo project ever?  Edward S Curtis spent years living with Native American tribes to chronicle their lives, in what became a definitive work of vast proportions.    After taking more than 40,000 pictures over 30 years, he published the last of 20 volumes in 1930.


2. African Women: remembering them in history, 10 short BBC video vignettes:

Warrior Queens:



 2. African Women: remembering them in history, 10 short BBC video vignettes:    Warrior Queens:


 2. African Women: remembering them in history, 10 short BBC video vignettes:    Warrior Queens:


https://www.bbc.com/news/av/world-africa-45877404/nehanda-the-shona-spirit-medium-that-inspired-mugabe


Is there any peace, hope, Light?

There is so much stress in the world today. Or, our new globalism has made us aware of our local stress, and then brought about the stress trauma of that extra awareness.

Is there any peace, hope, Light? 

It seems the trauma of the Gaslighter causes a trauma that, as described in all our Trauma and Takers books, is

a. a real brain damage
b. since this brain damage is shutting down parts of the brain, a person's resources, memories, abilities, and even hopes becomes truly disabled. This is because so much of what we do is dependent on thinking that utilizes several parts of the brain at once.....and with PTSD Bully Trauma and Gaslight Trauma, that just doesn't happen. 

Here's how that works and is seen in situations for "Bill". 

a. Anger
Anger is common life emotion for those with PTSD. Why? When Bill gets up in the morning to face his day, he sees in his MIND AND BRAIN only the obligations to be done that day: chores, tasks, pick up the dog poops again it's Wednesday, deal with XYZ bills, struggle to do, get done, the cable company is ripping me off today, there's no good NFL game on today.......
in PTSD, the ancient old reptilian part of the brain still functions: there's anger, chaos, fear.....But, Bill's MIND AND BRAIN is not tapping into his other regions of the brain, which includes these and MORE:

b. lost: one's resources of the mind, a life, experiences (actually, so veiled the seem very lost, but are still in the brain and mind)

hope
his spirituality, held only in the dulled advanced frontal lobes of the brain
choice
experiences, millions, most actually good
his successes in his kids soccer club and making friends
his memories of vacations, including hiking Australia
his accomplishments doing........
nice thoughts about......


It's all gone. Actually, it's there, just veiled or clouded by the PTSD. 

So, others see, and Bill sees his life as one ball of frustration and anger. And, he is that with his kids, in a bar fight, and in his divorce. His life....is over as a thriving human with the Attack. 

c. Despair
This results in different types of feelings of despair and thoughts of the same. To Bill, this feels very real, as the mind is made to do that. His current reality without the memory bank in his head is one of despair and hopelessness. 

One can express this not in creative ways, but as reactions:
in an outward way others are attacked, blames, or even shot
in an inward sense: one knows they're not thriving, one can give up

Why does the mind make this current emptiness feel so real? That is a survival mechanism: 
fear the dark
fear threats
fear the monster under the bed

No matter how accomplished or resourceful a person is, this Survival Mechanism takes over: 
a. Bill can't get out of bed to face getting the groceries today. Agoraphobia develops for this social, outgoing, and fun person.
b. doing tasks seems too much, and going to his monthly wine tasting club seems worth nothing
c. this is a state of  death, as 3 classes of "suicide"

1. almost suicide, a person gives up to the quagmire of despair
2. para-suicide: one gives up on using their seat belt or taking their blood pressure meds: and just accepts an accidental death as their fate, something happening, deserved, and all is out of their control
3. suicide: there is no value to my life.....and there is no value of continuing my life even if suffering if it saves my pets or inspires one of my kids to live life through a struggle.


So, is there any peace, hope, light:

See our books on hope, light, recovery, and rebuilding at:

And, know

The Mind can be awakened, "most of the PTSD veil lifted"

1. Music and art heal the brain
2. There is Light
3. There is peace, which oddly comes by forgiving yourself, a healing process.

Forgive yourself for what, is the question, when the Gaslight attack was perpetrated from the outside?
Forgive yourself for any aspect of being pulled in, caught it.....it's not a blame, and maybe it can't be fully explained....but it is a forgiving of you.

Here's a nice audio, to use as background for any tasks, work, chores.....and it clears some of the veil. 

















Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Ambushed then Hijacked: 75 words to expand thinking

G: thanks for your dialogue and links to Mental Hijacking: society, social media, advertising and more.
(https://neurohacker.com/how-social-media-and-ai-hijack-your-brain)

There's lots to this. I also thought of the mythic role of the Mermaids in the Homer stories: mesmerizing and enchanting, as well as those mythic types that directly suck the soul from you as in Harry Potter movies:


Stolen are mind, body, heart, or soul......however you see a human "self".



Sucked out and Stolen Life, Harry Potter
trump: There's lots to this. I also thought of the mythic role of the Mermaids in the Homer stories: mesmerizing and enchanting, as well as those mythic types that directly suck the soul from you as in Harry Potter movies:

There's lots to this. I also thought of the mythic role of the Mermaids in the Homer stories: mesmerizing and enchanting, as well as those mythic types that directly suck the soul from you as in Harry Potter movies:

The thing you could say about these Hijackers is that there are many: many types, and many methods. In fact, it's all very prevalent.

Your article mentions:
social media
advertising

How about also the metaphors in movies, like Invasion of the Body Snatchers?

Apart from the great need to know and stop mind snatching, there is the process of regaining our mental self.




Here are 5 Word lists to expand your thinking on the topic of Hijack


Ambushed then Hijacked: 75 words to expand thinking


carjack
commandeer
kidnap
steal
shanghai
skyjack
take hostage
annex
borrow
clap
confiscate
cop
embezzle
filch
get fingers on
get hands on
glom on to
grab
grab hold of
lift
misappropriate
moonlight requisition
pilfer
pocket
secure
swipe
take over
usurp
requisition
sequester
sequestrate



ambush
appropriate
arrest
block
catch
check
curb
cut in
cut off
deflect
head off at pass
hinder
interlope
interpose
make off with
obstruct
prevent
seize
shortstop
stop
take
take away

body snatch
bundle off
capture
carry away
carry off
coax
decoy
entice
grab
lay hands on
lure
make off with
pirate
remove
run away with
seduce
seize
shanghai
skyjack
snatch
spirit away
steal
waylay

abscond
appropriate
bereave
break into
burglarize
burgle
cheat
con
cop
defalcate
defraud
despoil
disinherit
dispossess
divest
do out of
embezzle
filch
heist
hold up
hustle
lift
loot
lose
mug
oust
peculate
pilfer
pillage
pinch
plunder
promote
purloin
raid
ransack
relieve
requisition
rifle
rip off
roll
sack
scrounge
snitch
stick up
strip
strong-arm
swindle
swipe
take
thieve
withhold




ambush
annex
apprehend
appropriate
arrest
arrogate
bag
bust
capture
carry off
catch
claw
clutch
commandeer
confiscate
conquer
exact
force
gain
get
grab
grasp
hijack
hook
impound
incorporate
kidnap
lift
nab
nail
occupy
overcome
overpower
overrun
overwhelm
pick up
pounce
secure
snag
snare
spirit away
subdue
take
take by storm
take captive
take over
take possession of
throttle
trap
usurp
wrench



Sunday, October 14, 2018

Points of Light: Preserving Cultures Counts

In some movies from the 30's and 40's a lovely vacation is portrayed. While the scene may be from a former time, movies from this era emulated certain vacation types and spots, just like other things of the wealthy were emulated in movies, albeit a Sherlock Holmes movie, vampire, love, or mystery:
the dinner jacket
the martini
nice leather travel luggage
Harrods
big gems on necklaces and rings
flowing designer dresses for designer parties

This was the era forgetting the glamour of the 1912 cruise ship disaster of the Titanic, devastating World War 1, and growing financial and political tensions.  I think this was also a time when somewhat realistic movies, like Gaslight were brought to us by the British. I think there is a reason for many mysteries and dark dramas being influenced by England: it was the land of Jack the Ripper, Scotland Yard, tales of Sherlock Holmes, and the dark sides of London.

In the movie Gaslight, our heroine has met a man while on her glamour vacation. Was it like so many movies at that time, portraying a long rest at Lake Como, in Italy?

Remember, as the note above, there are two versions of the movie, with different details. But, there is the
vacation
the return home
the gaslighting

Then, this is not fully a happy ending. There is no return to Lake Como. The gaslighter's damage has redirected the story. It doesn't return to a naive Lake story or rest. But, also, it doesn't return to that theme at all.....there is no Prince taking our heroine off to the Lake.

The story has then changed. It's not innocent, and not naive anymore. There is damage. Just like the knights going off naively to find the Holy Grail, they all end up battered, scared, and war torn from the experience. Nothing is the same.

Something is lost then.

These stories serve as warnings and tragedies. There is loss. They tell us

don't go there
don't do that
don't have dinner in the vampires castle

When the thief, the gaslighter, takes one's innocence, it's replaced with a more mature view of the world. Being jaded can show up. But, the risk is to let the pendulum swing so far that one is only jaded. One must find now a balance:

how can you be careful, jaded, and "return to or regain your innocence"?

Lost is the culture of Lake Como and the restive vacation, but also potentially lost for good is the culture of the lake vacation AND a part of our souls, often called our inner innocent child self.


leather luggage, historical for train trip London to Lake Como, Gaslight movie


About Lake Como

travel: About Lake Como Italy


https://www.mirror.co.uk/travel/europe/5-reasons-italys-lake-como-12436663


Are you moving on? Leaving something, heading to something?

Are you moving on? Leaving something, heading to something?


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