How can the victim become so confused??? Unvalidated Trauma PTSD

There are two major influences to the confusion of victim:

1. the Gaslighter uses methods causing confusion

2. the Brain can't recover from that mental trauma without Validation, and rolls into endless confusion, self doubt, lack of clarity, and obsession.

The Brain has damage we can see in brain scans: regions that formerly were communicating with one another can no longer do that. It's like a soccer team all playing on different soccer fields:
they can't rely on each other to solve the problem, get clear, think it through, or end the abuse.

The victim doesn't want this, certainly, this it the PTSD of Gaslight abuse, where trauma is not validate.

And, yes, being Gaslighted IS trauma to the brain causing this PTSD, just as much as any crisis or disaster is traumatizing!

Psychatrists, Mental Hospitals: Lockups for my Crazy Wife

Having been a clinical therapist for 35 years, I've never seen a psychiatric hospital turn down the admission of a female patient on the recommendation of her husband.

It can be a dilemma in the psychiatry of a patient to get enough information from silent or withdraw persons the information needed to make an accurate diagnosis.

In one third of cases, husbands themselves are traumatized by psychiatric events of their wives: depression, mania, suicide, agoraphobia and more. These men are very humble about the situation, and self checking of their attitudes and motives.

But, the situation also draws the attention of the male Gaslighter: hey, this is pretty easy: if I tell them she's crazy, they'll lock here up!

I've seen some horrible abuses from this. But, there's also been wives who have been Gaslighted for years, and have been so convinced they're crazy, they they fully accept that they're serious psychiatric patient. In one case, the wife willing went into long term care at State Mental Hospital South. Over the two years, the husband continued his plans of an affair with his mistress and the draining of the wife's inheritance.

Unfortunately, psychiatrists and hospitals have not been as self checking as many husbands: I would estimate that the real motive for psychiatrist and hospitals in admitting patients was only for ego and money. And, I've some horror stories about all that:
the husband Gaslighter uses "you're crazy" very well, and the mental health structure of psychiatrists and hospitals go along, as co-criminals.

My opinion: more people these days actually need good quality care inpatient: but let's take out those who've been gaslighted with crazy making abuse of years, and use those beds for those seriously and dangerously mentally ill.

12 Graphics on the Crazy Making of the Gaslighter

12 Graphics on the Crazy Making of the Gaslighter

10 Method of Crazy Makers:

rest of article:

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/ten-examples-crazy-making-relationships.html

1. When your partner convinces you that something happened when it didn’t (or vice versa)

An example of this could be a social event. You might be 100% sure that you were not made aware of an upcoming party and your partner will insist they told you. A one-off occurrence can happen to anyone but when this happens several times it is a form of crazy making.

2. Passive-aggressive behaviour

If you need to be somewhere at a specific time, your partner may appear to be dawdling. They will deny this if you point it out, but subtly they are thwarting your plans. You might ask for something and they will pretend not to hear you. An item that you keep in a regular place might get moved from that spot with denials that they ever touched it. These are all examples of passive aggressive behaviour. It is manipulative and subtle. Crazy making people are too clever to be overt in their actions as they know that their behavior would never be accepted so they find clever ways to undermine you. Ways that aren’t as obvious or could be open to interpretation.

3. Everything is somehow your fault

Crazy making partners rarely admit to doing anything wrong. They manage to twist events around and somehow the blame ends up back on you. Crazy making partners seem to end up as the victim all the time. They may provoke you until you can’t take it any longer. When you eventually react negatively towards them, they will be the ‘hurt’ ones.

4. Projection

Crazy makers project their internal chaos onto others. The emotional environment around them is tense, not rational and easy-going. Instead, people in their company often feel on edge, waiting to be picked on or judged in some way. When they make you feel anger, they are giving you a taster of what they feel all the time. They may cleverly disguise it, but crazy makers often have a history of tumultuous relationships. Generally, the more passive their partner is the longer the relationship will last.

5. Non-verbal body language sends a dismissive message

Crazy makers will often make you feel as if you are doing something wrong without uttering a word. Instead, they will sigh loudly, roll their eyes (and make sure you see it) or shake their heads while you do something. This sends you a clear message that they disapprove of your actions. Instead of engaging in rational verbal communication, their subtle gestures will become something you are very in tune with. This is perfect for crazy makers as they can then carry on with their disapproving signs even when in public. On an ongoing basis, this erodes self esteem and confidence making a person even easier to manipulate.

6. Making you doubt your perceptions

Crazy makers will say provocative statements and when you react, they will immediately let you know that you are being too sensitive or that you are overreacting and that you should listen more. They will tell you that you have misunderstood them. It will always be your fault, never will they apologise for saying something that upset you – it will be your fault for not understanding them correctly. They will rarely be bothered that they have said something to upset you, instead you will be blamed for your reaction. They rarely see their part in the ‘play’. You may try harder to please them because it feels like you are the cause of all the trouble when in fact, your perceptions are valid but are completely undermined in a crazy making relationship.

7. Hypocritical behaviour

You would think that a crazy maker would be perfect in every way as they seem to have so much to say about what others do wrong. Yet, often, crazy makers are the biggest hypocrites. There is one set of rules for them and another for everyone else. Don’t anyone dare tell a white lie or withhold information yet many crazy makers do this on a regular basis.

8. It’s all about control

Crazy making in relationships is all about gaining control. Crazy making behaviour often develops in childhood. When, as a child their emotional needs are not met, children learn dysfunctional ways to cope. They take these dysfunctional strategies with them into adulthood and try to use the same manipulative techniques in their adult relationships. Their manipulation tends to work better with other individuals with low self esteem although anyone is open to succumbing to this type of relationship depending upon their mental state at the time. Crazy makers are generally insecure people.

9. Subtle brain-washing

This can also exist when crazy making in relationships develops. Again, this is done in a subtle way as crazy makers try to get you to come around to their way of thinking. You may have packed the dishwasher for many years in a way that works perfectly well for you, when suddenly, this method will be challenged. “Why have you done that?” or “Why are you doing it that way?” You begin to question your way of doing things and the process of confidence erosion and self doubt commences. This is a form of control and links in with rigid thinking. Things have to be done in a certain way and if they aren’t, you can be made to feel that you are lacking in some way.

10) Setting you up to fail

This is a case of damned if you do and damned if you don’t. You will find that the rules change according to a crazy maker’s fickle wants and wishes. As the dynamic shifts, you will try harder to please them yet nothing ever seems to be quite right. I have witnessed confident people become a shell of their former selves after being in a crazy making relationship. It can happen to the best of us.

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here is a Google search with other crazy making articles, lists, resources......most very good

Maybe I will have to lock you up for being so Crazy.

My mother would joke with her friends:

• "they'll lock you up"
• "the men with white coats will put you in a straight jacket"
• "the paddy wagon will come and get you"
• "they'll give you a lobotomy"
• "they'll put you in with the rest of the droolers and crazies"

The Gaslighter in this movie uses this well.

Maybe I will have to lock you up for being so Crazy.

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Well, I have to admit that I'm feeling a bit crazy with all of this. In 2018 I'm trying to post less to my blogs on Policitical Psychopaths and Political Pirates and Vampires.  It seeemed time to move on some. But, it's hard to leave a matter when another, a Gaslighter is telling you're crazy.


You're told that you're crazy, wrong, sicko, mentally off kilter.....The Gaslighter will pick the terms that this brilliant person thinks will work best to weaken you.

If the comments of "you're crazy" and "I'll have to lock you up" aren't enough, the Gaslighter is not averse to having you locked up, after convincing others that this is needed. It's all about determining how vulnerable one is to "suggestion" just as in hypnosis, mesmer, enchantment, and CONNING. If you can accomplish the goal with little effort, good: avoid social crowd that is local, as they might find out some things about your false story. If you do have to follow your threat: time and groom others to believe the story: have semi-false fact, records, the few comments of the maids in the movie to show to the mental institution staff.

With the victim of the story, you can act sane or as crazy as you want...."it's all good". Here are some recent crazy stories:

trump threatens Harley Davidson with punitive taxes: not fair taxes but directed personal punishment

the Gaslighter has no reservation in playing crazy, threatening, and then really throwing others under the bus: Trump can act on Harley Davidson punishment

Trump to throw darling Harley Davidson under the bus, and court other "American" companies

Trump misinformation and false information on Harley Davidson: "they're all Trump supporters", a fully unfounded and dubious comment that is Gaslighting

Donald Trump boasts about his "savior status" with North Korea, while the 7 days prior, information and photos of Kim's restarting nuclear plants abounds.  Kim Jong-Un: a pathological liar, and a leopard I've mentioned in other blogs: a leopard can't change it's spots. 

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It's an "American Way": if due process is dropped for one group, what says you'll not be next? Trump eliminates due process for border immigrants

trump threatens allies, women, opposition, Harley Davidson.....it would take a listmaker to track the many threats of just one week

Everything done by the gasligher has a negative impact, but not on the gaslighter, but all others.
Travel ban check: immigrants from Syria and other listed countries have included the US "brain drain" of foreign countries: doctors come to the US. Information:

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 Feeling Crazy yet?

Here's one about Climate Change, Trump's direction and legerdermain: Government websites remove Climate Change references, including last year the EPA!  NOW: CDC: an organization impacted by the movement of disease and mosquitoes aided by climate change.

The Gaslighter is a master actor: the respectable and respecting persona

Respect is a very deep experience. Unfortunately, the Gaslighter is the pro at looking respectful, convincing the other they're respectful, while all along, they're about stealing something. In the movie Gaslight, this dapper vampire like respect is all a part of the con. The Gaslighter is skilled, just as John Gacy was skilled at putting on a responsible social persona, while busying himself other hours burying bodies in the basement.

While demonstrating false respect and love, this Gaslighter is always ready to reinforce his con story: you're crazy.

The  is a master actor: the respectable and respecting persona

Synonyms for respect
noun admiration given by others
appreciation
awe
consideration
deference
dignity
esteem
fear
honor
recognition
regard
reverence
tribute
account
adoration
approbation
courtesy
estimation
favor
homage
obeisance
phoovation
repute
testimonial
veneration
worship

Tokenism Quote

to·ken·ism
ˈtōkəˌnizəm
noun
the practice of making only a perfunctory or symbolic effort to do a particular thing, especially by recruiting a small number of people from underrepresented groups in order to give the appearance of sexual or racial equality within a workforce.
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Tokenism is the practice of making only a perfunctory or symbolic effort to be inclusive to members of minority groups, especially by recruiting a small number of people from underrepresented groups in order to give the appearance of racial or sexual equality within a workforce.