Hiding the Truth: You didn't see that.
When is something hidden in art?
When is something hidden in art?
Versus, this:
When are you told something is not there, but it really was / is???
Tuesday, February 27, 2018
When is the Gaslighter's Sexual actions not about Sex?
When is the Gaslighter's Sexual actions not about Sex?
As I posted some information and a panel yesterday about gaslighters that flirt, or even have "harems" of sexual partners (gay or straight), the intent is to have a supply of victims.
These victims are of two types:
How can sex and sexuality be distinguished from the Gaslighter's sexual harem and flirting that is "the maintenance of narcissistic supply"?
While an extreme case, the story of Ted Bundy, the experts remind, while Bundy gaslights and blames his problems on pornography, his cruel psychopathic disorder is the root of his problems.
As I posted some information and a panel yesterday about gaslighters that flirt, or even have "harems" of sexual partners (gay or straight), the intent is to have a supply of victims.
These victims are of two types:
- those cod fish and those catfish, a metaphor
- those desired sexually, so called "sexy person's" in the mind of the gaslighter, versus other dummies that are being manipulated.
I wanted to be sure to add the panel, that our conversations are not be anti-sex, anti-sexuality, or a reason to jump on some moralistic "Prohibition" type bandwagon, as we often do.
Here is that panel:
1. we are driven more than we know or accept that we "look" at others sexually attractive to us. Our brain is created thus. And, this all varies from person to local / country cultures. Both men and women "look" with no intention of bringing the other into the Narcissistic Supply Circle of use and abuse. There is no ultimate plan to use and abuse, though affairs occur often. Sex and Morals are not a matter for the Gaslighter, but psychological control and use human "resource / food / workers / soilent green, is.
2. the Gaslighter though does this with a plan: the wife (the audience) must see eye dart, hear the "she's a beautiful human, or get wind of the sexy Tweet for it to be effective and part of the plan: the bottom feeder catfish, often a spouse, must know of the act toward the "cod" person to be brought into the cycle.
So, how do we differentiate those with normal sexual actions or normal deviations that are discounted by society?
Gaslighting, viewed as onging in a person's life and not just a single situation:
20% of men and 10% of women that have significant Narcissitic Personality Disorder Traits
5% of the population who have psyhopathy, sociopathy, and antisocial personality disorder
.5% of the population Serial Killers (having psychopathy, narcissism, sociopathy plus antisocial personality disorder)
criminals, felons, cons with antisocial personality disorder
other disorders, including borderline, pathological lying, adult PTSD with childhood trauma, paranoid, pathological liars
those missing diagnosis, seen as just "Angry Young men shooting in bars post Iraq" or "Crazy women who kill their kids"
How can sex and sexuality be distinguished from the Gaslighter's sexual harem and flirting that is "the maintenance of narcissistic supply"?
While an extreme case, the story of Ted Bundy, the experts remind, while Bundy gaslights and blames his problems on pornography, his cruel psychopathic disorder is the root of his problems.
Friday, February 23, 2018
7 Things That Terrify Narcissists To Their Core | Conscious Reminder
7 Things That Terrify Narcissists To Their Core | Conscious Reminder
summary of this video at Youtube.com
1. abandonment
This is seen as rejection of their self, you'll be punished by rage and smear campaigns
2. being made fun of
they have no humor
they may chuckle if you're harmed or fall, but it's a mocking, and not humor
jokes of them or poked fun is dangerous to do
jokes are an alluding to their inner emptiness versus their flimsy strong false image of them self: they'll destroy you to protect that image of themselves they have
3. being disrespected
4. being ingnored
they need the "narcissistic supply"
and, they like positive attention and negative attention (criticism), because it affirms they are. Ignoring does not.
5. exposure of vulnerabilities, true ones
called out. They respond with silent treatment or gaslighting
they use "flying monkeys", like on Wizard of Oz, other persons to attack you.
6. loss of the trappings of youth and success
Note: the author has several good points here. A movie that demonstrates how the narcissist becomes cranky and mean in old age is Citizen Cohn. Excellent movie on narcissistic abuse in old age.
7. death
the anihalation of the ego, their meaning, all they are. Some may also feel they're going to hell and fear that.
Deceptology
Deception
Deceptology
What do those two words mean?
Why is deception used?
How did narcissists and psychopaths become so associated with the deception attitude and process?
Where else beside the mental disorders do we see the use of deception?
Is there a negative and a beneficial deception?
We'll be exploring that more, so sign up to get fresh posts by email so you won't have to check the site. That'll make it easy.
for a link to more synonyms of the words you find interesting, click this link:
http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/deception
Deceptology
What do those two words mean?
Why is deception used?
How did narcissists and psychopaths become so associated with the deception attitude and process?
Where else beside the mental disorders do we see the use of deception?
Is there a negative and a beneficial deception?
We'll be exploring that more, so sign up to get fresh posts by email so you won't have to check the site. That'll make it easy.
for a link to more synonyms of the words you find interesting, click this link:
http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/deception
Thursday, February 22, 2018
Gaslighting: To make you upset, confused, angry, and doubt
Some points from this good video:
1. they seek to make you upset, confused, angry, to doubt what happened.
2. it makes you feels crazy if you recognize it
3. there is a recovery process
4. know the signs
5. while several mental disorder persons use gaslighting, narcissism is the top user
6. most gaslighters, when they want to, are charming
7. the use your insecurities, and they use it now, or in the future file it away: make later comments or pokes at you
8. they are intuitive about this: your insecurities and fears
9. ultimate goal: doubt, so they can control you
10. they test your out even with false comments, then watch your reaction, then use that info against you
11. you've forgotten what is "normal" because of their campaign against you
12. they'll knock down your confidence
13. they "diagnose you" like a doctor, to tell you what's wrong with you, especially your sanity
called paranoid, stressed out, needs therapy, pms,
14. they don't mind hurting you, and even enjoy it
15. you doubt your own beliefs and perceptions
16. if you then question your own judgement based on "their view", you might make drastic moves like leave a spouse, job, give up and idea or hobby
17. they have selective memory: they conveniently forget bad behaviors and words
Me?
This is their denying, though likely they really do remember
18. they even portray abusing you as normal
19. they are easily angered and upset by EVERYTHING, and use that as intimidation. One might, you the victim, lie or cover things to not have this anger and abuse, though this abuse you're aware of.
20. you stop talking about yourself around the Narcissist and then eventually others: you don't know how to talk about yourself.
21. you believe the manipulation: you really are the crazy one.
wrong: you owe that person an apology. They'll use this apology against you later.
22. depression, exhaustion,
23. you feel you're overly sensitive to the issues: but instead it's happening.
They use this against you.
24. You lose sense of Self
1. they seek to make you upset, confused, angry, to doubt what happened.
2. it makes you feels crazy if you recognize it
3. there is a recovery process
4. know the signs
5. while several mental disorder persons use gaslighting, narcissism is the top user
6. most gaslighters, when they want to, are charming
7. the use your insecurities, and they use it now, or in the future file it away: make later comments or pokes at you
8. they are intuitive about this: your insecurities and fears
9. ultimate goal: doubt, so they can control you
10. they test your out even with false comments, then watch your reaction, then use that info against you
11. you've forgotten what is "normal" because of their campaign against you
12. they'll knock down your confidence
13. they "diagnose you" like a doctor, to tell you what's wrong with you, especially your sanity
called paranoid, stressed out, needs therapy, pms,
14. they don't mind hurting you, and even enjoy it
15. you doubt your own beliefs and perceptions
16. if you then question your own judgement based on "their view", you might make drastic moves like leave a spouse, job, give up and idea or hobby
17. they have selective memory: they conveniently forget bad behaviors and words
Me?
This is their denying, though likely they really do remember
18. they even portray abusing you as normal
19. they are easily angered and upset by EVERYTHING, and use that as intimidation. One might, you the victim, lie or cover things to not have this anger and abuse, though this abuse you're aware of.
20. you stop talking about yourself around the Narcissist and then eventually others: you don't know how to talk about yourself.
21. you believe the manipulation: you really are the crazy one.
wrong: you owe that person an apology. They'll use this apology against you later.
22. depression, exhaustion,
23. you feel you're overly sensitive to the issues: but instead it's happening.
They use this against you.
24. You lose sense of Self
"It didn't Happen". Daily Gaslighting
It was a story I had some history with.
When in college, I took a road trip with some friends to visit the Grand Canyon and Tucson, Arizona. It was a great and fun trip. After passing the Grand Canyon we stopped in a Northern Arizona tourist shop. There was a display of some posters that featured the Crimson Cliffs of that area. They're so magnificent. The display said on a card: how many faces can you find hidden in the cliffs. There were some initials and numbers, the highest indicated one person saw or felt they saw 47 faces hidden.
The Red Cliffs of Sedona, Arizona.
Someday, I'll locate the original poster, from decades back.
Now, as a child, I grew up with this in the Sunday Newspaper Funnies. I always loved those sections of the large colored Sunday cartoon section that featured the "How many can you find in this picture". Hidden were a dozen rabbits in the graphic or eleven ships hidden in some backyard scene. Usually, mom, getting up early, had circled some, but always missed a couple.
So, things are hidden in photos?
for a collection of "land form faces", see:
http://astro.wsu.edu/worthey/astro/html/im-indian-heads/indian.html
The problem is, once you start finding faces in things, it never stops. I'm sure that facial recognition is a brain and survival mechanism in us, the primates, and cats and dogs: we are geared from day one to recognize and gravitate to faces for our survival. And, I have always seen this in my pets as they cue into my face, and particular, eyes. Kittens and puppies gravitate to their own kind, and so interesting as we evolved with these animals, the faces of humans. They see us as just as safe as their mom. That's why taking a box of your kittens to the store parking lot helps you "pass them out", because the kittens or puppies struggle to get to surrounding people.
But, then this ability for me took and odd and for me, troubling direction. Being an amateur rockhound, I had long collected the scenic or picture jaspers, where a landscape image is found in the rock.
Do you find it?
Then, I ran across a new rockhound book of jaspers and agates to add to my collection. I'd actually read the book a couple times and didn't notice, but one day it sprang out at me: hey, there's hidden faces in EACH of the 200 jaspers and agates displayed.
Then, I began to count and circle the faces. But, this was not ordinary, or a fun trick posed in a couple photos. This was massive:
each photo had dozens of very complex photos hidden in the detail of each rock. Some sort of blending or morphing of the graphics had been done, and since the photos were so small, they weren't clearly noticeable. I scoured the Internet to see if there was any documentation of this. I looked back at 20 other gem and mineral guide books, and yes, there were hidden faces, but not of this complexity:
there was a whole Mormon choir, complete with their pipe organ in the background
there were rows of cats and dogs
old pioneer scenes depicted men in a saloon and other situations
and it went on and on
I went to the library in town. The staff were reluctant to let me talk directly with the librarian with a master's degree in library science, but I pushed my way through. She was irritated with that, and didn't respond to my inquiry for help: are there real scenes hidden here, is this a scam or prank, and does this exist in books and history. I did find that hidden images are a part of art, as both artist prank and as a way to hide secret information.
But, a whole choir, a lady sitting before a mirror?
I wrote to the author several times, and finally caught up with her on Facebook. I asked, "Did your photographer helper do this creativity?"
Well, as an author of books in a dying hobby field, she needs to keep her credibility and royalties going, so what else could she say in any response? "The faces are just inherent to the photos".
It isn't there.
It didn't happen.
You're likely making this up.
Doubt yourself.
In the meantime, the situation and books became so perplexing to me, that I threw them out. I'll get my rock and gem photos only online.....
Is there a daily gaslighting?
No, you're imaging things.
When in college, I took a road trip with some friends to visit the Grand Canyon and Tucson, Arizona. It was a great and fun trip. After passing the Grand Canyon we stopped in a Northern Arizona tourist shop. There was a display of some posters that featured the Crimson Cliffs of that area. They're so magnificent. The display said on a card: how many faces can you find hidden in the cliffs. There were some initials and numbers, the highest indicated one person saw or felt they saw 47 faces hidden.
The Red Cliffs of Sedona, Arizona.
Someday, I'll locate the original poster, from decades back.
Now, as a child, I grew up with this in the Sunday Newspaper Funnies. I always loved those sections of the large colored Sunday cartoon section that featured the "How many can you find in this picture". Hidden were a dozen rabbits in the graphic or eleven ships hidden in some backyard scene. Usually, mom, getting up early, had circled some, but always missed a couple.
So, things are hidden in photos?
for a collection of "land form faces", see:
http://astro.wsu.edu/worthey/astro/html/im-indian-heads/indian.html
The problem is, once you start finding faces in things, it never stops. I'm sure that facial recognition is a brain and survival mechanism in us, the primates, and cats and dogs: we are geared from day one to recognize and gravitate to faces for our survival. And, I have always seen this in my pets as they cue into my face, and particular, eyes. Kittens and puppies gravitate to their own kind, and so interesting as we evolved with these animals, the faces of humans. They see us as just as safe as their mom. That's why taking a box of your kittens to the store parking lot helps you "pass them out", because the kittens or puppies struggle to get to surrounding people.
But, then this ability for me took and odd and for me, troubling direction. Being an amateur rockhound, I had long collected the scenic or picture jaspers, where a landscape image is found in the rock.
Do you find it?
Then, I ran across a new rockhound book of jaspers and agates to add to my collection. I'd actually read the book a couple times and didn't notice, but one day it sprang out at me: hey, there's hidden faces in EACH of the 200 jaspers and agates displayed.
Then, I began to count and circle the faces. But, this was not ordinary, or a fun trick posed in a couple photos. This was massive:
each photo had dozens of very complex photos hidden in the detail of each rock. Some sort of blending or morphing of the graphics had been done, and since the photos were so small, they weren't clearly noticeable. I scoured the Internet to see if there was any documentation of this. I looked back at 20 other gem and mineral guide books, and yes, there were hidden faces, but not of this complexity:
there was a whole Mormon choir, complete with their pipe organ in the background
there were rows of cats and dogs
old pioneer scenes depicted men in a saloon and other situations
and it went on and on
I went to the library in town. The staff were reluctant to let me talk directly with the librarian with a master's degree in library science, but I pushed my way through. She was irritated with that, and didn't respond to my inquiry for help: are there real scenes hidden here, is this a scam or prank, and does this exist in books and history. I did find that hidden images are a part of art, as both artist prank and as a way to hide secret information.
But, a whole choir, a lady sitting before a mirror?
I wrote to the author several times, and finally caught up with her on Facebook. I asked, "Did your photographer helper do this creativity?"
Well, as an author of books in a dying hobby field, she needs to keep her credibility and royalties going, so what else could she say in any response? "The faces are just inherent to the photos".
It isn't there.
It didn't happen.
You're likely making this up.
Doubt yourself.
In the meantime, the situation and books became so perplexing to me, that I threw them out. I'll get my rock and gem photos only online.....
Is there a daily gaslighting?
No, you're imaging things.
Wednesday, February 14, 2018
Welcome and a bit about Gaslighting
Perhaps I'll have some time to explain some rationale for this site in a post, or include that as a side bar article. But for now, a bit of info from a retired clinical therapist who wrote 15 books on the topics of the Dark Disorder: dangerous narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy (the NPD who takes and kills directly or indirectly, like many world leaders).
I ran across this mini-book on Amazon.com, and I think they're words I would say:
1. gaslighting is the common ploy of the Dark Disordered
2. the victims of this are often victims of childhood gaslighting, bullying, conning, and have a form of PTSD into adulthood. They are susceptible to gaslighting at all times, don't realize they are vulnerable, and get themselves into more of this victim role by accident: it's sometimes beyond their awareness but not intentionally so.....
Here, wasps and yellow jackets attack beneficial insects, honey bees, birds, and humans.
Gaslighting: The Hive of the Narcissist
It's interesting that the word Hive is used. A hive of bees or wasps is a place we don't thing as the home of the insects, but a place of threat to us, children, and animals. I recall finding this last summer several giant wasp nests hidden in patio pots, and only then knew why my three cats would no longer go outside! I acted on this INSTANTLY due to the threat to them and myself! This was a giant version of wasp we're now seeing here in the arid high desert of Idaho, accompanied by a cousin giant ground version making giant tunneled nests, and causing days of pain for any person coming within 30 feet of the nest, wearing certain colored clothes, or making noise!!! To step on this nest means for many being stung on the legs and feet and not being a able to walk for days. I'm certain this replacement of more benign species has been a result of global warming with it's reduction of the insect eating animals and birds as well as it's decline of nature's fungal controls. These wasps and yellow jackets moving in to our communities and environments are also great predators of their own gentler kinds, including the mud wasp, but also of local birds, lizards, praying mantis, ladybugs, and all that is beneficial and beautiful. Such is the nature also of the Dark Disordered.
https://www.amazon.com/Gaslighting-Hive-Narcissist-Transcend-Mediocrity-ebook/dp/B0797DV2FG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1518619815&sr=8-2&keywords=movie%3A+gaslighting
Book Description:
Gaslighting is one of the most devastating tools that exists in the narcissist’s arsenal. If you have been subjected to gaslighting by a skilled narcissist, it is no doubt that you have suffered significant PTSD, Complex PTSD, Cassandra Syndrome, Battered Person Syndrome and more. You were led to believe that you were damaged, crazy, psychotic, etc. You were led there by someone who was much sicker than you were.
Gaslighting is dangerous and devastating. Those who know about gaslighting and who have been subjected to it know all too well how damaging it is to one’s psyche. It is a form of psychological warfare and abuse that is used to torture prisoners of war and more. Narcissists learn gaslighting early on, as they are often subject to gaslighting by their own parents, peers, mentors, teachers, coaches and more.
Many children who are subjected to gaslighting have also undergone a significant amount of other means of abuse. A large number of adults were abused as children, physically, emotionally and sexually. Most of them have never come forward to face their abuser, and thus they have never received any type of validation for the abuse that they suffered at the hands of another.
These abused children were gaslighted to believe that the abuse they were suffering was normal. They were told that the abuse shown to them was ‘love’. Thus, they began to confuse ‘love’ with abuse, and confuse abuse with ‘love’. They were told ‘tough love’ was as valuable as unconditional love, when the two cannot even be used to describe the same types of actions or words.
Most of these adults harbor secrets long into their adulthood They suffer from wounds that have never been treated or discussed with a mental health advocate. They suffer in silence just as you might be suffering in silence with your current gaslighting experience. They were molested. They were bullied.
These abused and exploited children were told that all actions existed in the name of ‘love’. Is it a wonder that they reject ‘love’ in all forms as adults? Is it a wonder that they no longer know what the word love means, if they ever did at all? We give these adults a free pass, as though they suddenly might become compassionate and caring human beings now that they have been damaged by the adults around them.
However, we should never give a free pass to anyone who seeks to control us in the name of love, especially not these damaged adults. Control is not love. It never has been. It never will be. Control is control. Period.
Here are more photos on the metaphors
a. the dark disordered being metaphors of the attacking yellow jacket or wasp: predation of what is naive, innocent, and beneficial
b. the victims of the Dark Disordered are like those victims of the killer insects
and
c. the intent of the danger insects is like the dark disordered: others have no value of nature or humanity, the deserve and need harm
d. the victims are eaten, or any living creature that threatens a single wasp or hornet, or gets near the hive it to be overwhelmed with a community attack: the goal is death to the naive invader.
I ran across this mini-book on Amazon.com, and I think they're words I would say:
1. gaslighting is the common ploy of the Dark Disordered
2. the victims of this are often victims of childhood gaslighting, bullying, conning, and have a form of PTSD into adulthood. They are susceptible to gaslighting at all times, don't realize they are vulnerable, and get themselves into more of this victim role by accident: it's sometimes beyond their awareness but not intentionally so.....
Here, wasps and yellow jackets attack beneficial insects, honey bees, birds, and humans.
Gaslighting: The Hive of the Narcissist
It's interesting that the word Hive is used. A hive of bees or wasps is a place we don't thing as the home of the insects, but a place of threat to us, children, and animals. I recall finding this last summer several giant wasp nests hidden in patio pots, and only then knew why my three cats would no longer go outside! I acted on this INSTANTLY due to the threat to them and myself! This was a giant version of wasp we're now seeing here in the arid high desert of Idaho, accompanied by a cousin giant ground version making giant tunneled nests, and causing days of pain for any person coming within 30 feet of the nest, wearing certain colored clothes, or making noise!!! To step on this nest means for many being stung on the legs and feet and not being a able to walk for days. I'm certain this replacement of more benign species has been a result of global warming with it's reduction of the insect eating animals and birds as well as it's decline of nature's fungal controls. These wasps and yellow jackets moving in to our communities and environments are also great predators of their own gentler kinds, including the mud wasp, but also of local birds, lizards, praying mantis, ladybugs, and all that is beneficial and beautiful. Such is the nature also of the Dark Disordered.
https://www.amazon.com/Gaslighting-Hive-Narcissist-Transcend-Mediocrity-ebook/dp/B0797DV2FG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1518619815&sr=8-2&keywords=movie%3A+gaslighting
Book Description:
Gaslighting is one of the most devastating tools that exists in the narcissist’s arsenal. If you have been subjected to gaslighting by a skilled narcissist, it is no doubt that you have suffered significant PTSD, Complex PTSD, Cassandra Syndrome, Battered Person Syndrome and more. You were led to believe that you were damaged, crazy, psychotic, etc. You were led there by someone who was much sicker than you were.
Gaslighting is dangerous and devastating. Those who know about gaslighting and who have been subjected to it know all too well how damaging it is to one’s psyche. It is a form of psychological warfare and abuse that is used to torture prisoners of war and more. Narcissists learn gaslighting early on, as they are often subject to gaslighting by their own parents, peers, mentors, teachers, coaches and more.
Many children who are subjected to gaslighting have also undergone a significant amount of other means of abuse. A large number of adults were abused as children, physically, emotionally and sexually. Most of them have never come forward to face their abuser, and thus they have never received any type of validation for the abuse that they suffered at the hands of another.
These abused children were gaslighted to believe that the abuse they were suffering was normal. They were told that the abuse shown to them was ‘love’. Thus, they began to confuse ‘love’ with abuse, and confuse abuse with ‘love’. They were told ‘tough love’ was as valuable as unconditional love, when the two cannot even be used to describe the same types of actions or words.
Most of these adults harbor secrets long into their adulthood They suffer from wounds that have never been treated or discussed with a mental health advocate. They suffer in silence just as you might be suffering in silence with your current gaslighting experience. They were molested. They were bullied.
These abused and exploited children were told that all actions existed in the name of ‘love’. Is it a wonder that they reject ‘love’ in all forms as adults? Is it a wonder that they no longer know what the word love means, if they ever did at all? We give these adults a free pass, as though they suddenly might become compassionate and caring human beings now that they have been damaged by the adults around them.
However, we should never give a free pass to anyone who seeks to control us in the name of love, especially not these damaged adults. Control is not love. It never has been. It never will be. Control is control. Period.
Here are more photos on the metaphors
a. the dark disordered being metaphors of the attacking yellow jacket or wasp: predation of what is naive, innocent, and beneficial
b. the victims of the Dark Disordered are like those victims of the killer insects
and
c. the intent of the danger insects is like the dark disordered: others have no value of nature or humanity, the deserve and need harm
d. the victims are eaten, or any living creature that threatens a single wasp or hornet, or gets near the hive it to be overwhelmed with a community attack: the goal is death to the naive invader.
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