When is the Gaslighter's Sexual actions not about Sex?

When is the Gaslighter's Sexual actions not about Sex?

As I posted some information and a panel yesterday about gaslighters that flirt, or even have "harems" of sexual partners (gay or straight), the intent is to have a supply of victims.

These victims are of two types:

• those cod fish and those catfish, a metaphor
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• those desired sexually, so called "sexy person's" in the mind of the gaslighter, versus other dummies that are being manipulated. 

I wanted to be sure to add the panel, that our conversations are not be anti-sex, anti-sexuality, or a reason to jump on some moralistic "Prohibition" type bandwagon, as we often do. 

Here is that panel:

1. we are driven more than we know or accept that we "look" at others sexually attractive to us. Our brain is created thus. And, this all varies from person to local / country cultures.  Both men and women "look" with no intention of bringing the other into the Narcissistic Supply Circle of use and abuse. There is no ultimate plan to use and abuse, though affairs occur often.  Sex and Morals are not a matter for the Gaslighter, but psychological control and use human "resource / food / workers / soilent green, is. 

2. the Gaslighter though does this with a plan: the wife (the audience) must see eye dart, hear the "she's a beautiful human, or get wind of the sexy Tweet for it to be effective and part of the plan: the bottom feeder catfish, often a spouse, must know of the act toward the "cod" person to be brought into the cycle.  

So, how do we differentiate those with normal sexual actions or normal deviations that are discounted by society? 

Gaslighting, viewed as onging in a person's life and not just a single situation:

20% of men and 10% of women that have significant Narcissitic Personality Disorder  Traits

5% of the population who have psyhopathy, sociopathy, and antisocial personality disorder

.5% of the population Serial Killers (having psychopathy, narcissism, sociopathy plus antisocial personality disorder)

criminals, felons, cons with antisocial personality disorder

other disorders, including borderline, pathological lying, adult PTSD with childhood trauma, paranoid, pathological liars

those missing diagnosis, seen as just "Angry Young men shooting in bars post Iraq" or "Crazy women who kill their kids"

How can sex and sexuality be distinguished from the Gaslighter's sexual harem and flirting that is "the maintenance of narcissistic supply"?

While an extreme case, the story of Ted Bundy, the experts remind, while Bundy gaslights and blames his problems on pornography, his cruel psychopathic disorder is the root of his problems.