12 Graphics on the Crazy Making of the Gaslighter

12 Graphics on the Crazy Making of the Gaslighter

10 Method of Crazy Makers:

rest of article:

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/ten-examples-crazy-making-relationships.html

1. When your partner convinces you that something happened when it didn’t (or vice versa)

An example of this could be a social event. You might be 100% sure that you were not made aware of an upcoming party and your partner will insist they told you. A one-off occurrence can happen to anyone but when this happens several times it is a form of crazy making.

2. Passive-aggressive behaviour

If you need to be somewhere at a specific time, your partner may appear to be dawdling. They will deny this if you point it out, but subtly they are thwarting your plans. You might ask for something and they will pretend not to hear you. An item that you keep in a regular place might get moved from that spot with denials that they ever touched it. These are all examples of passive aggressive behaviour. It is manipulative and subtle. Crazy making people are too clever to be overt in their actions as they know that their behavior would never be accepted so they find clever ways to undermine you. Ways that aren’t as obvious or could be open to interpretation.

3. Everything is somehow your fault

Crazy making partners rarely admit to doing anything wrong. They manage to twist events around and somehow the blame ends up back on you. Crazy making partners seem to end up as the victim all the time. They may provoke you until you can’t take it any longer. When you eventually react negatively towards them, they will be the ‘hurt’ ones.

4. Projection

Crazy makers project their internal chaos onto others. The emotional environment around them is tense, not rational and easy-going. Instead, people in their company often feel on edge, waiting to be picked on or judged in some way. When they make you feel anger, they are giving you a taster of what they feel all the time. They may cleverly disguise it, but crazy makers often have a history of tumultuous relationships. Generally, the more passive their partner is the longer the relationship will last.

5. Non-verbal body language sends a dismissive message

Crazy makers will often make you feel as if you are doing something wrong without uttering a word. Instead, they will sigh loudly, roll their eyes (and make sure you see it) or shake their heads while you do something. This sends you a clear message that they disapprove of your actions. Instead of engaging in rational verbal communication, their subtle gestures will become something you are very in tune with. This is perfect for crazy makers as they can then carry on with their disapproving signs even when in public. On an ongoing basis, this erodes self esteem and confidence making a person even easier to manipulate.

6. Making you doubt your perceptions

Crazy makers will say provocative statements and when you react, they will immediately let you know that you are being too sensitive or that you are overreacting and that you should listen more. They will tell you that you have misunderstood them. It will always be your fault, never will they apologise for saying something that upset you – it will be your fault for not understanding them correctly. They will rarely be bothered that they have said something to upset you, instead you will be blamed for your reaction. They rarely see their part in the ‘play’. You may try harder to please them because it feels like you are the cause of all the trouble when in fact, your perceptions are valid but are completely undermined in a crazy making relationship.

7. Hypocritical behaviour

You would think that a crazy maker would be perfect in every way as they seem to have so much to say about what others do wrong. Yet, often, crazy makers are the biggest hypocrites. There is one set of rules for them and another for everyone else. Don’t anyone dare tell a white lie or withhold information yet many crazy makers do this on a regular basis.

8. It’s all about control

Crazy making in relationships is all about gaining control. Crazy making behaviour often develops in childhood. When, as a child their emotional needs are not met, children learn dysfunctional ways to cope. They take these dysfunctional strategies with them into adulthood and try to use the same manipulative techniques in their adult relationships. Their manipulation tends to work better with other individuals with low self esteem although anyone is open to succumbing to this type of relationship depending upon their mental state at the time. Crazy makers are generally insecure people.

9. Subtle brain-washing

This can also exist when crazy making in relationships develops. Again, this is done in a subtle way as crazy makers try to get you to come around to their way of thinking. You may have packed the dishwasher for many years in a way that works perfectly well for you, when suddenly, this method will be challenged. “Why have you done that?” or “Why are you doing it that way?” You begin to question your way of doing things and the process of confidence erosion and self doubt commences. This is a form of control and links in with rigid thinking. Things have to be done in a certain way and if they aren’t, you can be made to feel that you are lacking in some way.

10) Setting you up to fail

This is a case of damned if you do and damned if you don’t. You will find that the rules change according to a crazy maker’s fickle wants and wishes. As the dynamic shifts, you will try harder to please them yet nothing ever seems to be quite right. I have witnessed confident people become a shell of their former selves after being in a crazy making relationship. It can happen to the best of us.

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http://www.enddomesticabuse.org/crazy_making.php




here is a Google search with other crazy making articles, lists, resources......most very good

Maybe I will have to lock you up for being so Crazy.

My mother would joke with her friends:

• "they'll lock you up"
• "the men with white coats will put you in a straight jacket"
• "the paddy wagon will come and get you"
• "they'll give you a lobotomy"
• "they'll put you in with the rest of the droolers and crazies"

The Gaslighter in this movie uses this well.

Maybe I will have to lock you up for being so Crazy.

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Well, I have to admit that I'm feeling a bit crazy with all of this. In 2018 I'm trying to post less to my blogs on Policitical Psychopaths and Political Pirates and Vampires.  It seeemed time to move on some. But, it's hard to leave a matter when another, a Gaslighter is telling you're crazy.


You're told that you're crazy, wrong, sicko, mentally off kilter.....The Gaslighter will pick the terms that this brilliant person thinks will work best to weaken you.

If the comments of "you're crazy" and "I'll have to lock you up" aren't enough, the Gaslighter is not averse to having you locked up, after convincing others that this is needed. It's all about determining how vulnerable one is to "suggestion" just as in hypnosis, mesmer, enchantment, and CONNING. If you can accomplish the goal with little effort, good: avoid social crowd that is local, as they might find out some things about your false story. If you do have to follow your threat: time and groom others to believe the story: have semi-false fact, records, the few comments of the maids in the movie to show to the mental institution staff.

With the victim of the story, you can act sane or as crazy as you want...."it's all good". Here are some recent crazy stories:

trump threatens Harley Davidson with punitive taxes: not fair taxes but directed personal punishment

the Gaslighter has no reservation in playing crazy, threatening, and then really throwing others under the bus: Trump can act on Harley Davidson punishment

Trump to throw darling Harley Davidson under the bus, and court other "American" companies

Trump misinformation and false information on Harley Davidson: "they're all Trump supporters", a fully unfounded and dubious comment that is Gaslighting

Donald Trump boasts about his "savior status" with North Korea, while the 7 days prior, information and photos of Kim's restarting nuclear plants abounds.  Kim Jong-Un: a pathological liar, and a leopard I've mentioned in other blogs: a leopard can't change it's spots. 

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It's an "American Way": if due process is dropped for one group, what says you'll not be next? Trump eliminates due process for border immigrants

trump threatens allies, women, opposition, Harley Davidson.....it would take a listmaker to track the many threats of just one week

Everything done by the gasligher has a negative impact, but not on the gaslighter, but all others.
Travel ban check: immigrants from Syria and other listed countries have included the US "brain drain" of foreign countries: doctors come to the US. Information:

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 Feeling Crazy yet?

Here's one about Climate Change, Trump's direction and legerdermain: Government websites remove Climate Change references, including last year the EPA!  NOW: CDC: an organization impacted by the movement of disease and mosquitoes aided by climate change.

The Gaslighter is a master actor: the respectable and respecting persona

Respect is a very deep experience. Unfortunately, the Gaslighter is the pro at looking respectful, convincing the other they're respectful, while all along, they're about stealing something. In the movie Gaslight, this dapper vampire like respect is all a part of the con. The Gaslighter is skilled, just as John Gacy was skilled at putting on a responsible social persona, while busying himself other hours burying bodies in the basement.

While demonstrating false respect and love, this Gaslighter is always ready to reinforce his con story: you're crazy.

The  is a master actor: the respectable and respecting persona

Synonyms for respect
noun admiration given by others
appreciation
awe
consideration
deference
dignity
esteem
fear
honor
recognition
regard
reverence
tribute
account
adoration
approbation
courtesy
estimation
favor
homage
obeisance
phoovation
repute
testimonial
veneration
worship

Tokenism Quote

to·ken·ism
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noun
the practice of making only a perfunctory or symbolic effort to do a particular thing, especially by recruiting a small number of people from underrepresented groups in order to give the appearance of sexual or racial equality within a workforce.
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Tokenism is the practice of making only a perfunctory or symbolic effort to be inclusive to members of minority groups, especially by recruiting a small number of people from underrepresented groups in order to give the appearance of racial or sexual equality within a workforce.

Anthony Avalos, 10 and gay, tortured, killed by parents. LA

How do parents come to the point of abuse and murder of a 10 year old child like this?

Sometimes one parent is that male psychopath
Others, wives, or a community can be convinced. See the link to the left for videos on this process of others in selling out and believing the con.

This in NOT the exception, but the daily news of USA gays.

Investigators said that a 10-year-old child who died recently after years of physical abuse, came out as gay just before he was killed.

Last Wednesday, the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department responded to a 911 call at Anthony Avalos’s home and were told by his mother Heather Barron that the child had “suffered injuries from a fall.”

He had severe head injuries and cigarette burns on his body, and his mother and her boyfriend Kareem Leiva had been reported numerous times for child abuse.

Anthony was unresponsive and taken to the hospital, where he died a day later.

Since 2013, the Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) and the police received 16 calls from school officials and family members concerning child abuse by Barron and Leiva. At least 13 of those calls, according to an anonymous source who spoke with the LA Times, were about Anthony specifically, not one of his six siblings.

A 2013 investigation also concluded that Anthony was sexually abused by a grandparent.

DCFS Director Bobby Cagle said that the reports included accusations

denied food and water, sexually abused, beaten, dangled upside-down from a staircase, forced to crouch for hours, locked in a small room without a bathroom, forced to fight, and told to eat from the trash.

Now DCFS Deputy Director Brandon Nichols said that Anthony “said he liked boys” in the weeks leading to his death.

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2018/06/parents-torture-kill-10-year-old-says-likes-boys/?utm_source=queerty&utm_medium=directlink&utm_campaign=directlink&utm_content=Parents+torture+%26%23038%3B+kill+10-year-old+after+he+says+he+%E2%80%98likes+boys%E2%80%99

Understanding the Gaslight Attack: two movies

It's important to note three things about the movie Gaslight in order to understand gaslighting:

1. there are two movies, both are similar. The second though starts at a time later, after a mysterious murder has occurred. The heroine in movie two is leaving London to leave the scene and life with the murder. 

2. the theme is a psychopathic male, a gaslighter. Psychopath, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Machiavelianism (gloating and joyous at the killing, bleeding and suffering of others). All have no regard to the humanity, welfare, or outcome of the other person or persons. 

(We describe all three, as well as how others become both conned then willing participants in the inhuman crime. Think of Hitler and his conning of hundreds of thousands of countrymen enlisted to a: gas and kill 7 million Jews, and 1 million Gays and Infidels (those in disagreement with Hitler, SS, Hitler's Henchmen. 

In general, while viewed as the same brain and psychological disorder of lack of feelings, lack of compassion, and lack of remorse, it's accepted that those known as psychopaths may start wars, start genocides, be serial killers, see no harm in torture or dismemberment, and are demonstrated well in movies on Rippers and Serial Killers. But, there is a case to call all the same, and put the many types under one Diagnosis and Name: psychopath

• the cruel boss who doesn't kill physically or dismember, but does so in all other ways emotionally, psychologically, metaphorically, and symbolically: there is no concern for the welfare of the person destroyed publicly, destroyed and unrecoverable emotionally, taken mental hostage of a false prosecution, 
• or given a short term or destructive long term Smear Campaign by a hateful, angry, and revengeful politician, public leader, or religious leader or any moralist
• the psychopathic husband who destroys his wife, philanders, uses for his advantage, and likely has a criminal record of felonies and has anti-social disorder.
• the cruel world leader, bent on selfish takeover, and planning to kill the opposition, many often those who assisted a career that are "thrown under the bus" publicly, emotionally, and psychologically, destroyed and never able to recover....all the way to paranoid plans (and ALL types listed above have this in degrees), or the relatives on the hit kill list in that psychopath's mind.

There are also psychopathic organizations that are a "like a psychopathic person"

a. destructive regimes

b. countries entrenched in ethnic cleansing, or even regions of countries (see our article on Emmett Till, a Southern US lynching backed by religious and political moralists and fundamentalists, a lynching not of the Old South, but of recent history). 

3. there are some comments on the web, misinformed because news about psychopathic criminals like the one in the movie, have not been understood and talked about publicly: she is not a victim of dementia as some comment: she is a victim of the hidden and covered up actions of the Psychopath in Gaslighting: convincing her she is mental.  At the TCM movie website, the woman's problem is described as dementia, not gaslighting. 

How can one tell the difference, in the point 3?

a. the psychopaths always blame shifts

b. the psychopaths always have a smear campaign of letting you, the victim, and the public know you're CRAZY, nuts, insane.  They use whatever method they need to sell the story of: you're weak, they're weak, I'm an expert authority on this and trust me...trust me alone. Further, marginalize that person, or them, and get on board: oppose them, stop them, shout at them, and if needed imprison or KILL them (lynchings, genocide, false imprisonment leading to execution, or all sort of metaphoric emotional and public worth or standing "slayings". 

c. the end outcome is often a good test of what is going on: the psychopaths wants something. Their goal is not altruistic, it is self-serving and greedy though that truth may not show itself for 2 to 5 years.  They sell that they'll help you, include you, give you the wealth, inclusion, or status you're hungry for. But in the end, you're not invited to the "party". They build their condos, castles, stocks of gold, and in their mansions, when there is a dinner party you're not there, though you might have been invited to the psychopath's bbq at the public park or a catered buffet at the town hotel....and likely spent $5,000 on that food for all.....But, you're not worthy to step into their home.....You are as dispensable as the person they SCAPEGOATED and VILIFIED.

The three types of Dark Disorder defined: click this link

So, of course, people assume: you're crazy, weak, immoral, and more, because we're so used to this pulpit and political microphone training: we tolerate and accept reviling, don't question, and are used to the process of moralism and the scapegoating of others. We're also used to the oddity that occurs in every country: the psychopath has boundless wealth, pays no taxes, and knows how to cheat systems and people to get more and more. Often, this wealth is hidden from the public via bank accounts and vaults of gold. But sometimes, like in the fall of the Ukraine, the dictator's sickening lavish lifestyle and mansions are shown finally to the public. 

When we think we have dementia: in the movie the heroine is given a full concerted Campaign, Reinforcement, and Education in her mental weakness, forgetting, and symptoms of mental illness.......when all along it was the gaslighter's campaign. 

This campaign is used to weaken:

• you
• any person bullied: schools, by parents, at work, or by neighbors
• women in relationships with abusive men
• persons who question anything or have other views in a community
• a person from a non-white Evangelical or Mormon view
• a kid bullied in the third grade: you're a sissy, dyke, idiot, stupid
• and groups: see our articles in the future on the weakening and disempowering of voices of US Hispanics, Hindus, Muslims, Atheist, Hollywood Voices and Voices of Activists or Questioners of all sort, and so on......

From TCM website:

Encouraged by the success of the play and film, MGM bought the remake rights, but with a clause insisting that all existing prints of Dickinson's version be destroyed,[4] even to the point of trying to destroy the negative, so that it would not compete with their more highly publicized 1944 film starring Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman, and Joseph Cotten. Time Out wrote, "Nothing like as lavish as the later MGM version ... But in its own small-scale way a superior film by far. Lurking menace hangs in the air like a fog, the atmosphere is electric, and Wynyard suffers exquisitely as she struggles to keep dementia at bay. It's hardly surprising that MGM tried to destroy the negative of this version when they made their own five years later."

From Wikipedia:

Gaslight, 1940 and 1944 movies. 

Gaslight is an American 1944 mystery-thriller film, adapted from Patrick Hamilton's 1938 play Gas Light, about a woman whose husband slowly manipulates her into believing that she is going insane. The film was nominated for seven Academy Awards, including Best Picture, Best Actor and Best Screenplay; it also won the Academy Award for Best Actress and Best Production Design.

The 1944 version was the second version to be filmed, following the British film Gaslight, directed by Thorold Dickinson and released in 1940. This 1944 version was directed by George Cukor and starred Ingrid Bergman, Charles Boyer, Joseph Cotten, and 18-year-old Angela Lansbury in an Oscar-nominated screen debut (Supporting Actress). Gaslight had a larger scale and budget than the earlier film, and lends a different feel to the material. To avoid confusion with the first film, this version was originally given the title The Murder in Thornton Square in the UK.[2] This film features numerous deviations from the original stage play, though the central drama of a husband trying to drive his wife insane in order to distract her from his criminal activities remains.

and, other Film Noir movies of this genre, and some of the with Gaslighters. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslight_(1944_film)

Noir analysis

In 2006, film critic Emanuel Levy discussed the film noir aspects of the film:

A thriller soaked in paranoia, Gaslight is a period films [sic] noir that, like Hitchcock's The Lodger and Hangover Square, is set in the Edwardian age. It's interesting to speculate about the prominence of a film cycle in the 1940s that can be described as 'Don't Trust Your Husband'. It began with three Hitchcock films: Rebecca (1940), Suspicion (1941), and Shadow of a Doubt (1943), and continued with Gaslight and Jane Eyre (both in 1944), Dragonwyck (1945), Notorious and The Spiral Staircase (both 1946), The Two Mrs. Carrolls (1947), and Sorry, Wrong Number and Sleep, My Love (both 1948). All of these films use the noir visual vocabulary and share the same premise and narrative structure: The life of a rich, sheltered woman is threatened by an older, deranged man, often her husband. In all of them, the house, usually a symbol of sheltered security in Hollywood movies, becomes a trap of terror.[9]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslight_(1944_film)